Comments on: Don’t let your epidural be a source of shame

By: Menucha @ Moms & Crafters

Menucha @ Moms & Crafters — Fri, 10 Jun 2016 15:47:30 +0000

In reply to HenryMom.

I think it’s great that you share this as it’s as you mentioned a perceived judgement – not one that’s necessarily there. And as you said, what’s right for one person might not be right for the next.

By: HenryMom

HenryMom — Mon, 30 May 2016 17:52:01 +0000

On the flip side, I did not have an epidural but what I get a lot is defensiveness from people who assume that, since I didn’t, I MUST be judging them for doing so. People get prickly and weird and start justifying and explaining immediately (or trying to convince me that I’m an idiot) and it’s not like I ask them first- I never ask anyone about their birth story first and only share if someone asks me because it’s not anyone’s business otherwise. I truly honestly didn’t skip the epidural because I think it’s inherently bad or that people are bad for doing it, it just was not right for ME. End of story. People do a lot of things that aren’t right for me and vice versa. I don’t make ANY of my life choices with the purpose of invalidating other people’s choices. And anyone (male, female, doctor or not) who goes out of their way to comment on your birth choices or cast aspersions on them is an asshole.

By: Menucha @ Moms & Crafters

Menucha @ Moms & Crafters — Fri, 18 Dec 2015 16:56:39 +0000

In reply to Emma. I totally agree! One Facebook fan shared with me what her OB/GYN told her: you're going to have a baby, not a birth!

By: Emma

Emma — Fri, 18 Dec 2015 05:55:03 +0000

This is similar to how some moms feel guilty about having a C-section, like they didn’t have a “real” birth. There’s no one right way – and that goes for everything about parenting! Thanks for sharing your story; I bet a lot of moms will feel better after reading it!