Comments on: Modesty Misunderstood – How I Plan to Teach my Son

By: Amanda Bernard

Amanda Bernard — Sun, 22 Feb 2015 00:07:23 +0000

I love this. I read that same blog post and I also had strong opinions on it. I feel the same way that you do. And it really burns me when people act like men cannot control their thoughts or actions….like their just a bunch of neanderthals. That, to me, does not say “I respect my husband”. I actually find it very disrespectful to all men.

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By: Menucha @ Moms & Crafters

Menucha @ Moms & Crafters — Tue, 10 Feb 2015 20:25:45 +0000

In reply to Tiffany.

Exactly! That story is pretty shocking… And for me, as a parent, when it’s taught that way to the girls, I know my son will pick up on it too. It “absolves” the men of responsibility for their actions. At the same time, there’s so much virtue involved, that it’s a shame to give it over the wrong way and miss out on it entirely…

By: Tiffany

Tiffany — Tue, 10 Feb 2015 19:08:19 +0000

I loved this! While I do dress modestly by choice, the attitude behind “modestly” at times bothers me. I went to a Christian school with a strict dress code…. For the girls. Because, we were told ad naseum, boys/men could not help being lustful, sexual creatures and the sin was ours if they struggled with impure thoughts. Imagine being 15 years old, and wearing a skirt that was below the knee in June, but you must have grown over summer, because now, in September, a hint of knee cap is showing. And being told multiple times throughout the day by a middle aged male teacher that he couldn’t stop looking at your legs, he was thinking about your legs all through lunch break, “mmm, yeah, they’re as nice as I remembered”. When my parents complained they were told, what did you expect? He could see her knees. It was only a natural reaction on his part.
This type of cop out is obviously unexceptable, that a grown man (a teacher), is free to lust after a child and it’s all her fault. It’s not fair to the girls/women, and it’s not fair to the men/boys, who are basically being told, you’re too weak to show any self control, any respect, any decency. You better hope you don’t come across a girl in shorts, who knows what might happen!

By: ad46241

ad46241 — Tue, 10 Feb 2015 15:52:00 +0000

i love the message you want to pass on to your child. its always important to teach kids at times becuase thats the age they learn better and understand. They even develop the skill to use the knowledge and manners we pass on to them.

By: Alison

Alison — Fri, 06 Feb 2015 17:55:17 +0000

I love this article. I am having such a tough time finding clothes for my daughter already that I would consider “modest”. Shorts are just way too short and some of the bathing suits are tiny. My mother inlaw gave her a rockstar costume she bought after Halloween on clearance that came with a tube top and fake snake skin pants. I am not super conservative, but she will not be wearing that. I want to teach my daughter confidence and although she is beautiful, I don’t want her to think that is her only quality. She is so much more than the “pretty girl”.

Thanks
Alison
theguiltymommy.com

By: vickie couturier

vickie couturier — Thu, 05 Feb 2015 18:15:38 +0000

I was raised to dress modestly,,we wore pants etc but not tight and not short shorts,they had to cover a lot,,it pains me to see young ladies/or old ladies for that matter dress with so much showing,,we wore a dress to church and to funerals,,It took me a LONG time for it to be okay for ppl to wear pants to church and funerals,,but I have come to terms with that,,glad you are happy with your choice

By: Jules Ruud

Jules Ruud — Tue, 03 Feb 2015 21:37:05 +0000

This is such a great post. What a great outlook on this. Thank you for sharing!

By: Tara Bixler

Tara Bixler — Tue, 03 Feb 2015 21:10:20 +0000

Lovely said.I agree with the whole modest thing.I do believe everyone is there own person and should not follow but lead by example.I dress attire is both modest at times and not modest My daughter however is very,very modest,she will not even wear a swimsuit.I do not tell her what to wear or not wear,this is by her own choice.I guess I can say I’m relieved she chooses to do so,as a 15 yr old teenaer.Most her friends barely wear any clothes and it kinda shocks me ,but I’m not gonna judge there character by there choice in clothes.Like I said before I’m just glad my daughter chooses not to.Thanks so much for sharing your review with us.

By: Nancy C

Nancy C — Tue, 03 Feb 2015 13:07:19 +0000

I appreciate your views on the matter. It would be wonderful if everyone chose to make what’s inside more important than what is outside of a person.