Comments on: She called the cops on me

By: Menucha @ Moms & Crafters

Menucha @ Moms & Crafters — Wed, 30 May 2018 00:05:12 +0000

In reply to Moira Bauer. Moira, you are absolutely right. We need to try our best and then pray. That sounds so so so scary, not being able to give quick chase.

By: Moira Bauer

Moira Bauer — Tue, 29 May 2018 21:52:24 +0000

In reply to Mati. Even when you are right there they can get away. My toddler was in the change room with me, slipped under the door and was gone before I could stop him. I quickly dressed and ran out of the change room and he was no where in sight. You are right guardian angels watch them for those times when life happens and as parents we must remember life happens and try not to judge. No parent knowingly puts their child in danger but we all have lapses and life happens. So thankful your little one is safe.

By: Raye

Raye — Thu, 24 May 2018 12:28:10 +0000

As a mother of four and a grandmother, hover as much as you like! There are nasty people out there and the world isn’t becoming a better place. At least if you’re right there you can protect, reassure, calm and monitor you’r children. At the end of the day you will know you have done your best and they will remember your love.

By: Alana

Alana — Sat, 12 May 2018 00:31:30 +0000

I get a kick out of the fact this comment was left behind the veil of the name Jane Doe.
There is no such thing as watching your child all the time. Parents who call the cops on other parents in contexts like these are doing more damage to society than the most free-range parents (there are stats to coroborate this).
Scraped knees and bumps and bruises are part of childhood. I’m so sorry this happened to you but know you’re a wonderful mom.

By: Jennifer Tammy

Jennifer Tammy — Fri, 11 May 2018 22:21:03 +0000

In reply to Jane Doe.

Um, pretty sure she already said that she made a poor choice and would make different actions going forward…
And I’ll go ahead and leave my name since I’m not ashamed of my comment, Ms. Doe.

By: Menucha @ Moms & Crafters

Menucha @ Moms & Crafters — Fri, 11 May 2018 21:28:12 +0000

In reply to Talya.

I can’t imagine having someone watching for my mistakes with a magnifying glass. That is horrifying. And you’re right, they’re not. As you can see from “Jane Doe”‘s comment below…

By: Jane Doe

Jane Doe — Fri, 11 May 2018 18:43:54 +0000

I would suggest finding a playground with a fence and leaving your husband at home. There is no reason why you should leave your less than two-year-old alone to have a conversation that your husband could’ve had. You’re not a helicopter mom. If you were hovering over the FIVE-year-old, that would be helicopter-y. But next time, maybe pick up the two year old and take him with you to talk to the other parent while your husband rests his weary bones on the park bench.

By: Talya

Talya — Fri, 11 May 2018 17:57:27 +0000

I totally sympathize with the indignance, fear and horror.
I’ve had a few of those moments too.
Like when I was assigned a social worker (!). I know, every divorcing couple who have any degree of disagreement regarding custody get assigned a social worker.. But me! It was a shaking, wrenching experience.
I’m just sorry I can’t say that parents in the US are usually less trigger-happy. They’re not.

By: Menucha @ Moms & Crafters

Menucha @ Moms & Crafters — Fri, 11 May 2018 14:20:29 +0000

In reply to Karen Patten.

Karen, you hit the nail on the head. I did make a mistake and I don’t deny it. I’m not looking for people to tell me that I didn’t. And that is the biggest lesson a parent can learn. Whenever I hear people calling the police on parents I am shocked – it takes a LOT for the system to be better than a mistake a parent made. And most mistakes will not be repeated – even if a child does find a nice loving home (never mind the repercussions and trauma that the transition can cause) you’ll be putting them with another human being who will be starting from scratch without having made those mistakes with this child. If only people were more loving, helping. I’d even have taken an earful from this women but to call the police? Wow.

By: Karen Patten

Karen Patten — Fri, 11 May 2018 12:28:00 +0000

This is what’s wrong with the world. (Ok, that may be an overstatement…) But, seriously. Every single one of us wants a “village,” but apparently too many aren’t willing to be the village. How would this have been different if that woman actually thought through the potential consequences of her actions? I can’t believe that she felt that this 5 seconds would be worth having a child taken from his family and his home, even if it was temporary. What if she had redirected him back to you? What if she had helped him find you? What if she had said, “Mama, we all get tired or overwhelmed – do you need a break for a few minutes? I could watch your little one.” What if she had done anything other than just passing the buck to police who are already overworked and underpaid? Brene Brown quotes from Teddy Roosevelt – it’s long, so I apologize… “It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.” So I wouldn’t worry about your “critic” who didn’t have any skin in the game. Your “critic” who couldn’t be bothered to even speak to you or attempt to help another mama isn’t worth listening to. You are the strong mama who stumbled, the doer of deeds who maybe could have done them better. At least in my opinion, hers is the cold and timid soul.